I know everyone loves their child... or at least I sure hope so! With another baby coming soon, I've really been trying to cherish my one on one time with Hunter, and am really realizing that I really LIKE my kid as well as love him. I'm really going to miss it. Especially since staying at home over the last several months, he has become my little buddy.
I really enjoy my time with Hunter. We do everything together and he is just so fun to be around. I've seen a lot of posts lately about how terrible two's are and if they aren't, then three is going to be hell. Hunter has his terrible two moments, but they come and go quickly. I'm just bracing myself for these stages of awfulness that people speak of.
I love running my errands with this little man. Our trips out often include a trip to Starbucks, Chipotle, or Jamba Juice. These are some of my favorite times with him, like they are our little mother-son dates. It's our time to chat and have fun together...and indulge in some yummy treats. ;)
He might have a hard time when the new baby comes, or he might not. But one thing I know is that while I am so excited to welcome another little baby boy into our family, I am going to mourn the loss of this time with Hunter. I am scared. I am scared of how I am going to give Hunter the time and love that I have been able to give him, but I am equally scared to give it up for myself. I really like my time with Hunter. We laugh, cuddle, play, and learn together. He is fun, compassionate, funny, smart, and such a great buddy.
So moms of two or more already, please give me some encouragement!! Does it just magically happen that your heart and time double and you have just the right amount of time for both? Or is it an adjustment?
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Not to worry. Every mom I know felt this way before their second child arrived....I know I did! I adored every moment with Kate. She was my best buddy and I loved being out and about with her. We had lunch and snack and shopping and playing and everything dates pretty much daily. I look back on those days with such fondness.
ReplyDeleteBut then number two comes and you find you had nothing to worry about. Your heart grows double in size, so there's more than enough love for both. And you ease into the time sharing, because at first, all the baby needs from you, really, is food, holding, and love. And you can do those things and still enjoy your time with number one. As number two's needs increase, you'll be ready for it and you'll find your dates, while often more hectic, are also more fun.
And you've got the best moments still ahead of you. As far as I'm concerned, nothing on this earth has ever made my heart burst with love and joy the way it does when seeing my children interact with love for each other. When I spot them holding hands, helping each other do something, or simply just sharing a book or having a conversation, the love boils over in a way that it never could have if I'd only had one child.
You're gonna love this!!!
-Amanda Bridges
Your heart will double automatically. Your time will not. 9 months in with 2 kids and I am just now figuring out how to really juggle everything. You will do fine! And so will Hunter. Beatrice took to having a sibling right away and watching their relationship grow makes all the stress about getting everything done and giving everyone what they need so worth it. I can't wait to "meet" Hudson!!
ReplyDeleteI'm going through the same dilemma with Tucker! I love that he has all my attention all the time and I'm worried about how we both are going to cope with not having so much "us" time after the new baby comes.
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